Topic: Parental Alienation

Books

子育て改革のための共同親権プロジェクト 基本政策提言書: 2021年民法改正★男女平等の子育ての幕開け 〜親子生き別れ!? ひとり親の貧困!? 家庭から社会を変革しよう

みなさんは、離婚後の「ひとり親の貧困」や「養育費の不払い」といった問題を聞いたことがあると思います。
コロナ禍で、ひとり親が困窮し、生活支援を求めているニュースも聞いているかと思います。
「ひとり親」として子を育て、また「ひとり親」の元で育った子どもたちは当事者以外には分からない苦労を知っているでしょう。

ただ、実はこの問題のもう片側には別の問題、(別居する)「ママに会えない」、「パパに会えない」、「子どもに会えない」ことから、苦しんでいる方が日本には実は沢山います。

「ひとり親の貧困」も「養育費の不払い」「会えない」ことも個人の問題では?という方もいらっしゃいますが、この問題は<個人>の問題ではないです。
<国>の法制度の根源である民法の<単独親権制度>が原因です。

単独親権制度に基づき、1日400人もの子どもたちが親子生き別れに現在もさせられています。1年間に10.8万人もの母子家庭が、8.4万人もの子どもに会えない別居親が作り出されています。

ちなみに、子どもに会えないのは「パパ」だけでなく「ママ」もいます。更に、子どもに会ってほしくても会ってくれない「別居親」もいます。また、「祖父母と孫」が会う権利は法的に規定されていません。

Learn More »
Books

Parenting Without Power Struggles: Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids While Staying Cool, Calm, and Connected

Family therapist Susan Stiffelman is here to help. While most parenting programs are designed to coerce kids to change, Parenting Without Power Struggles does something innovative, showing you how to come alongside your children to awaken their natural instincts to cooperate, rather than at them with threats or bribes, which inevitably fuels their resistance. By staying calm and being the confident “Captain of the ship” your child needs, you will learn how to parent from a place of strong, durable connection, and you’ll be better able to help your kids navigate the challenging moments of growing up.

Learn More »
Podcasts

Parenting Without Power Struggles

Susan Stiffelman is a family therapist, parent coach, and one of the country’s premiere parenting experts, and the author of Parenting Without Power Struggles and Parenting With Presence (an Eckhart Tolle edition.) Susan’s podcasts will feature conversations with guests including Dr. Jane Goodall, Arianna Huffington, Jack Kornfield, Glennon Melton and many other thought leaders.

Learn More »
Knowledge Products

Litigating International Child Abduction Cases Under the Hague Convention

The purpose of the first Manual, issued in 2007, was to provide attorneys with a road map for litigating international child abduction cases. Since the publication of the first Manual, the United States Supreme Court issued its first opinion concerning the Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction, and more parties have sought to resolve international abduction matters through alternative methods, including mediation. This updated Manual not only provides a general understanding of the law and its recent developments, but also describes practical considerations to aid attorneys in advocating for their clients. Finally, it raises issues and makes suggestions to ameliorate the potentially negative impact that these proceedings may have on the children involved in such disputes.1 As is evident in this Manual, representing a client in an international abduction matter requires a balancing of various considerations.

Learn More »
Knowledge Products

Family Abduction Prevention and Response

Many child abductions in the United States are committed by a parent or other family member. An estimated 203,900 children were victims of family abduction in the United States in 1999, according to the second National Incidence Studies: Missing, Abducted, Runaway, and Thrown away Children(NISMART-2), a study published by the Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention(OJJDP), U.S. Department of Justice, in 2002.1 Children who are victims of family abduction are uprooted from their homes and deprived of their other parent.Often they are told the other parent no longer loves them or is dead. Too often abducted children live a life of deception, sometimes under a false name, moving frequently and lacking the stability needed for healthy, emotional development.The term parental kidnapping describes the wrongful removal or retention of a child by a parent. Because child kidnappings are frequently committed by other family members, the term family abduction more accurately describes such action. Both terms are used interchangeably in this book. Both have civil and criminal meanings.When a parental kidnapping occurs the government may pursue criminal process against the abductor if a criminal law has been violated. Law enforcement and prosecutors are part of the criminal-justice system. The left-behind parent may pursue civil remedies to prevent an abduction or recover a wrong-fully removed or wrongfully retained child. The left-behind parent’s lawyer and the family court are part of the civil-justice system. It is important to understand both criminal and civil remedies can be pursued when an abduction occurs. The decision to pursue civil remedies is up to the parent, whereas the prosecutor ultimately has discretion whether to pursue criminal process.This guide covers civil and criminal remedies in parental kidnapping cases.It navigates parents and attorneys through the criminal- and civil-justice systems’ responses to parental kidnapping. It describes actions parents can take and laws that may be helpful when their children are the victims of family abduction. It also explains how to prevent abductions.Parents should take this book with them when they meet with their attorneys, law enforcement, prosecutors, and family-court personnel, many of whom may be handling a family-abduction case for the first time.

Learn More »
Knowledge Products

When Your Child Is Missing: A Family Survival Guide

This Guide was written by parents and family members who have experienced the disappearance of a child. It contains their combined advice concerning what you can expect when your child is missing, what you can do, and where you can go for help. It explains the role that various agencies and organizations play in the search for your missing child and dis-cusses some of the important issues that you and your family need to consider. The first checklist, What You Should Do When Your Child Is First Missing, summarizes the most critical steps that parents should take when their child is first missing, including whom to call, what to do to preserve evidence, and where to turn for help.

Learn More »
Knowledge Products

Family Abductions: What We’ve Learned An In-Depth Analysis by the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children

A family abduction is defined as the taking, retention or concealment of a child, younger than 18 years of age, by a parent, other person with a family relationship to the child, or his or her agent, in violation of the custody rights, including visitation rights of a parent or legal guardian. Between 2008 and 2017, the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children® (NCMEC) received 16,264 children with 11,761 known abductors who were involved in family abductions cases. Children and abductors were analyzed for demographics, and missing and recovery information. This report also presents information pertaining to missing duration, as well the amount of time taken to obtain a state warrant or enter the child in the National Crime Information Center (NCIC).The majority of these cases involved children who were abducted by a biological parent (89.9%). Family abductions are more likely to occur when the child(ren) are younger and the abduction takes place most often during the summer. Children abducted by family members were most likely to have a mean age of 5 years old. Almost a third (32.2%) of these children were abducted in the summer months (June, July, August). In the past decade, there has been an overall decline in the amount of time in which the child is separated from their custodial parent/guardian when they are abducted by a family member.Cases with an international component had longer missing durations than domestic cases, but the durations of both were on the decline. This report found significant correlations between the time it took to issue state warrant and the missing duration of a child.

Learn More »
Data / Fact Sheet

US State Department Annual Report on Parental Abduction

As a party to the Hague Convention of 25 October 1980 on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction (Convention), the United States is committed to the principle that generally the courts in a child’s place of habitual residence are best positioned to resolve matters of custody, and that abducted children should be promptly returned to their country of habitual residence. The Department of State works with our Convention partner countries to strengthen compliance with the Convention and address issues of mutual concern. Likewise, we advocate with countries that have not joined the Convention to develop the institutions and procedures required to resolve international parental child abductions and to become party to the Convention. The 2020 Annual Report on International Child Abduction illustrates the Department of State’s efforts to prevent and resolve international parental child abductions during 2019.

Learn More »